Love & Hate

Many say that the opposite of Love is Hate. That is untrue, however. The opposite of Love would be Apathy. Love and hate are, however, very closely connected. Many times, it's the one's we love the most who cause us to become the angriest. Today, we are going to use visualization to your advantage. Close your eyes, take a deep breath through your nose, and out through your mouth. When you are completely relaxed, begin your visualization exercise.

Imagine someone whom you are having a personal conflict with. It could be a spouse, coworker, friend, or maybe even your child. Bring an image of that person to your mind. Imagine that the interaction you are having with that person is positive. Begin conversing with small talk. Now watch yourself as you confront this person about what has been bothering you. You are communicating calmly, nicely when voicing your concerns, focusing on how the person makes you feel. See how the person responds in a positive way. Perhaps they respond with "I didn't know you felt this way."  You will see that by mentally preparing yourself with confrontations first, you will not feel as stressed an anxious about trying to solve the problems in real life.